Published on February 4, 2013 inParenting on LandOMoms.com
Patience as a new parent is a hard thing to come by. Even for people like me who have a pretty high level of patience, sometimes it just gets away from us. When you’re sleep deprived and every ounce of your attention is put on your baby, it’s easy to loose your patience. Some things I’ve learned in these first 7 months that have worked well for me to prevent my loss of patience are to:
Get enough sleep – ‘When the baby sleeps, you sleep’ is a real thing. You’re up half the night tending to your upset baby, of course you’re going to be tired. You need to maximize your energy and get some rest. Once your child starts sleeping longer stretches at night you’ll probably start to ween off your own nap times during the day. But, until then, get some sleep. When you’re rested, you’ll be able to make healthier and nicer choices…and not loose your patience.
Take a deep breath – If you’ve ever done yoga, you’ll know that the breath centers you and brings you back to what really matters. The time when you just want to scream, just take a nice deep breath and remind yourself that this too shall pass. Things will get better.
Plan ahead – You don’t want to be caught out and about without enough of the essentials. That’ll just make you stressed and allow you to loose your patience. Make sure you ‘over pack’ diapers, wipes, food, clothes, toys, etc.
Be healthy – I know that’s probably the last thing you are thinking about as a new parent, but it really does make you a better person, both mind and body when you eat healthy and exercise. You’re doing something good for yourself, which in turn, is good for your baby. You want to be a strong person and a good healthy role model for your children.
Look forward – First off all, don’t look at what life used to be like and wish you were still there. I know that was a big part of my PDD when I first had Liam. Life just got a whole lot more fun and you made this little person! Look ahead and think of all the great memories that are yet to come. Also, it helps a lot if you and your partner have something just for the two of you that you have to look forward to, whether it’s going on a vacation or on a date, just the two of you!
Be present – Remember to be present. Life is so short. Live every moment to the fullest and don’t fret over the little stuff. You’re doing your best and that’s all that you can ask of yourself.Remember, there’s no manual for being a parent. Be sure to ask for help if you need it and know that you’re doing great!